Wednesday, April 29, 2009

It just gets worse!!!!!!!

Just when I thought things couldn't get any worse .... they do!

The powers that be at work managed to handle the departure of my manager in just about the worst way possible. She had to come in and tell the team herself and her manager was unavailable in a meeting all day so he did not contact us. All we got was a brief email confirming her departure and announcing that the interim person who was the same grade as me and had just left the team would be coming back to cover the team leader role until they appoint a permanent replacement. Their rationale for this is that they did not want to give an unfair advantage to a permanent member of staff who may apply - I'm pretty sure I don't want the poisoned chalice but the point is they appear to have overlooked me. I wouldn't mind so much but this person is a nightmare! I spent a good deal of time clearing up her mistakes on cases while she was on the team previously! What is worse is that she has been queening it about all morning. She then asked me to stay behind after we had a team brief to tell me she is worried about me (because I am using my crutches), she nearly ended up with one wrapped round her head!

What is so funny about all this is that I work in HR - you would think the Head of HR would know how to handle something like this properly!

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

Busy, Busy!!!

I'm so sorry, another long gap between posting. Life is extremely hectic at the moment on all fronts and I seem to be just getting up, going to work, eating and sleeping.

The last few days have been exhausting both physically and emotionally.

I went to London on the weekend with my friend which was fantastic. It was so lovely to just get away from everything and have a good old natter. We went to see Grease which was really good - I am usually disappointed by shows which are based on iconic films but this worked, although I felt the ending was a bit rushed. I suppose it is a sign of the times but in the five years we've been doing this, it was the first time we saw empty seats in the audience which is a shame as the show was very good.

My boyfriend earned about six million brownie points over the weekend. My parents were away from Friday so he came over on Friday night specifically so he could drop me to the station on Saturday morning - he even missed curry with the lads! I was going to get the train home to Newport which would have been easier for him to pick me up but they weren't running so he came all the way back from Cardiff to pick me up - bless him!! On top of that he had looked after my dog all day as well.

On Sunday we went to get the tiles for the en-suite. The bathroom fitter was starting yesterday so we absolutely had to get them. Fortunately, we found the perfect tile and everything is going according to plan (so far!).

Yesterday was quite traumatic. Work has been quite stressful and there has been a lot going on in terms of restructure as I have previously said. I work in, what I can only describe as, a bitchy office. I've been there a year (exactly to the day, today!) and I've never worked in such a political, backstabbing environment. My manager has, in my opinion, done a good job in difficult circumstances and often in the face of some extremely disruptive behaviour. However, it appears that she has upset someone high because she was called into a 'meeting' yesterday where she was told they want to compromise her out. This basically means that they pay her money and she goes, signing away her right to take them to a tribunal. It is a legal process used when they want to get rid of someone but they know they have no proper grounds to do it safely. To be honest, she was already applying for other jobs and this way she is getting a rather nice pot of money to go but I am soooooo angry that the company can do this to her when they have given her absolutely no support in dealing with what they know is a difficult team. If it wasn't for the fact that I'm trying to get pregnant I would be actively looking for another job myself because come the move I'm going to be travelling 24 miles each way for a company that could just throw me aside if my face no longer fits. I think I am so angry because I know exactly who has done this and I think the decison was grossly unfair.

I'm not supposed to know about the compromise agreement so today was quite fraught as she was not in and we were just told she was off for personal reasons. She is back in tomorrow when she has to tell the team she is being made redundant - should be interesting!

I have my date for my pre-op assessment - that was extremely quick! It is on 3rd July so I think my op must be on the 13th.

I've no idea where my weight is, I know it has gone down but I can't keep track at the moment!! Last check it was down another two so I've updated my tracker - this may get readjusted when I finally get to stand on my own scales, probably in about 2020!!!

Thursday, April 23, 2009

How did it get to Thursday already?!!

Well, this week has just flashed past! I've been very busy (for a change!) and am now feeling very tired but it doesn't look like it is going to let up for a bit!

Work is okay, I wasn't well on Tuesday - same old problem with my lower abdomen. It was extremely fortunate that I had my appointment with the Gynaecologist in the afternoon. She was absolutely lovely. She doesn't think I have got endometriosis or if I have it is a very mild case - just as well, some of the symptoms she described were horrific. However, there is a cyst on my ovary and she has recommended a laparoscopy to have a look and try to take it away.

We also talked about us trying for a baby. She didn't fall off her chair laughing at us, which was a bonus!! She said there are women older than me (43) getting pregnant and although she could not promise it would happen there were things that could be done to help. So, when I have the laparoscopy she is going to check my tubes are not blocked at the same time. I'll be going in for this before the 21st July so that is great! She also examined me and found a cervical polyp which she removed, she said that it could have had an impact on my chances of conceiving. My poor boyfriend was so good, he has agreed to have the necessary tests as well - he wasn't expecting to have to answer questions about himself! I said to her that I didn't want to get too emotionally caught up in trying as that can make it difficult if it doesn't happen and she said - 'yes but you don't want to look back later and think you should have done more' - which is exactly what I was feeling.

I just have to find out what I need to do in terms of Bertie before the op - he'll have to be loosened I'm sure. I'm feeling much more positive about our chances of having a baby - so fingers crossed for us!

Our bathroom arrived yesterday - hurrah!! But they got the wrong shower tray - boo!! It was so nice to finally have the bathroom on site. The fitter came around and we put the furniture, shower tray and bath in place so that we could experiment with the layout. We now have a much better arrangement and he is going to start on Monday. We just need to get the tiles for the en-suite on the weekend and the correct shower tray which should arrive on Monday. It is so exciting!!

I'm off to London on Saturday with my friend. We're seeing a show, I'm not sure which one as she has arranged it and it is a surprise until we get on the train - it's a ritual we follow! I'm really looking forward to it, as I haven't seen her for ages and we have a lot of catching up to do!

My weight is looking good at the moment - nothing official but I think I've lost a few more pounds!

Sunday, April 19, 2009

Feeling better ...

I'm feeling a bit better, thanks to a Boot's ankle support and using my much loathed crutches! Both feet are still feeling a bit delicate but I'm coping and if I can avoid either or both feet going into plaster then I feel that's a victory!

The house is coming along, we bought our bathroom tiles today - not without a drama!! We went to a great place in Chepstow. We chose our tiles and got them in the back of my car. Despite me driving VERY carefully home, one box got displaced and when my boyfriend opened the back of the car it fell out onto the concrete with a gut-wrenching crunch! Fortunately, we have got a spare 1/2 square metre and we just cracked a few on the edges so hopefully we should be okay but it sounded awful when they fell.

My boyfriend has been an absolute sweetie this weekend. He has stripped the lounge in the new house, without telling me. It looks great, we'll have to get the plasterer in asap and then we can decorate. I can't wait until we can move in together - it is driving me mad, having to leave each other on a Sunday night.

Bertie is being hideous at the moment but I can't understand ... I stuggled to get my roast dinner down but my pudding went down a treat - how does that work?!!

Thursday, April 16, 2009

What else is going to come my way?!!

I'm sitting on my bed feeling very sorry for myself!!

As I have mentioned before, I have a condition which affects my legs and feet. It is pretty stable and usually I get on with things without many issues but there is one problem that recurs every now and then. Due to my feet being curved and misshapen, I don't have a flat walking surface so the weight is not evenly distributed, this causes me to have stress fractures in my feet which can happen as frequently as every six months or I can go a few years. It always tends to be my left foot and the last one I had was in the summer of 2006 so I've been doing quite well. I've had the familiar twinges in my left foot for a few weeks now but it has held off and seemed to settle down only for my right foot to start hurting. It started over the weekend and has gradually got worse until I was limping around work today and I have even resorted to getting my dad to dig my crutches out from the shed - a sure sign that I'm suffering as I hate them with a vengance and will only use them as a very last resort!! I'm worrying a bit as both feet are feeling fragile and I'm not sure I could cope with both of them having to go in plaster - I think that might be a bit precarious!! It's a shame but I have to go into work tomorrow as it is only me and another consultant covering and I couldn't leave her on her own - otherwise I think I would stay at home and rest it -
let's hope it settles down over the weekend.

On a positive note, I went birthday present shopping for my niece last night at the mall. I decided I wanted to send her over a skirt so I was looking in all the trendy shops that I haven't set foot in since I was a student and wearing a size 14. I know they have got a lot better at stocking bigger sizes but looking at some of the clothes I felt I wasn't too far off getting in them. I managed to get her a fab skirt in NEXT which I know she is going to love.

Bertie is making his presence felt - I think it is all this stress, honestly, I should be like a beanpole by now!

Wednesday, April 15, 2009

You'd think I'd know by now....

Honestly, how long have I had this band now?????? I make it nine months so you'd think I'd know better but no .... I have to push it to the limit and end up throwing up outside my new house!

Actually, it was more a bit of a slime incident and, strictly speaking, it wasn't entirely my fault but I really should have known better!! It happened on Monday, we were busy on the house. We'd been shopping and my boyfriend went into the supermarket to get something for lunch. Bless him, he was repeating the mantra - no bread - I tend to go for wraps which aren't so doughy but he came out with ... cornish pasties! My face must have dropped when I saw them as I know these are the sorts of things that just won't go down anymore. Anyway, we got on with some more work and a bit later I felt hungry so I thought I'd give it a go. I gingerly nibbled on the edge (avoiding the plaited bit down the top), the first few bits went down fine so I thought 'game on' it's going down. Oh no,
about four bites went down but promptly got stuck and then I got the iron fist and then a few carrots came back up!!

You have to feel sorry for my poor parents!! They have been fully involved with all the hassle I've had with my house move and they are off to Australia on 1st June to visit my brother for two months for a nice break. Then my brother called today to announce that they've bought a new house, have sold theirs and are due to move just before or just after my parents arrive!!!! My poor parents are going to get caught up in it no matter what!

Back to work later this morning - deep joy!!

Friday, April 10, 2009

Mixed feelings!

I've had a bit of a good/bad few days!

Work has been good, things have improved with the horrible case I was dealing with. Particularly since the person who had made all the fuss and caused me so much stress has been proven to be trying to cover her own bad behaviour. Basically, the case is related to inappropriate emails and we were disciplining three people for sending potentially offensive emails to external accounts. One of the line managers of these people threw a massive hissy fit when the disciplinary invites were issued but it's come to light during the hearings that she had been sending similar emails to them - hehehe! Not quite sure where that will go but I feel totally vindicated!!

The bad bit is that we've been at the house today. The electricians have been in, chasing out the walls to fit the cables. I could not believe it when I walked in to find they had done all the hacking out of the walls without using any dust sheets which they led me to believe would be used. All my furniture was covered in dust. I cannot believe anyone would be so disrespectful to someone elses belongings. My sofa was covered, my dining furniture was covered, I even had some coats on the sofa which were grey, everything including my TV and hifi speakers were covered - it was a total mess. We spent ages dusting and cleaning. I was crying my eyes out at the state of my furniture - believe me I am not house proud by any stretch but this was unbelieveable. We were half expecting the electrician to turn up as he has a little bit of finishing off to do. Fortunately, he didn't show as I think I would have had to walk out or risk screaming at him.

We are getting the gas connected on 6th May - yay!! Perhaps we can be in by the end of May!!

I've decided to update my ticker as, although I haven't weighed on my own scales, my boyfriends clearly show I've lost a further 2lbs and I want to recorded it! I am starting to seriously think about having a fill now, mum is a bit concerned but I want to give things a boost.

Wednesday, April 8, 2009

Having the week from hell!!

Just a quick note to explain my lack of updates - I'm having the week from hell at work! The big case that I've been dealing with blew up with a vengance on Monday and I was on the receiving end of a classic case of 'blame storming'!! I have made my position very clear but I hate being in situations where people have stuffed up and then lie like hell to cover their ass! Oops, evidently I am still angry!!

The good news is, my finger is tonnes better. The bruising is still quite dramatic but the swelling has gone down and I can bend it quite easily now. In fact, I can clench my fist - quite handy at the moment!! I am joking - I'm not a violent person ... usually!

Anyway, all this stress has helped me decide to take a flex day on Tuesday to make my long weekend even longer - bliss!!

Sunday, April 5, 2009

Rested ... and a victory!!!

Just a quick post before I turn the light out!

I've had a very rested weekend! My boyfriend came over to collect me yesterday so I haven't done any driving all weekend. I drive on hand controls so I didn't want to risk putting any more pressure on my already injured finger. I will have to drive to work tomorrow so I'm hoping it will be okay. I can do most things so I'm confident that it shouldn't be a problem. We spent last night with his parents having a take away which was lovely. Then today we went to the new house and did a bit of clearing. Some of my friends came to visit and I think they were blown away by the house. We then went to the gliding club where my boyfriend is a member - it was such a lovely afternoon and we sat out watching the gliders taking off and landing. I can definitely see what he enjoys about it.

My victory is that I bought a new skirt on the weekend and it is a size 16. I can't remember if I posted about this but I bought the same skirt in an 18 a few weeks ago and realised it was too big so took it back and ordered the 16. When I looked at the 16 I didn't think it would fit yet but it does and I might even wear it to work tomorrow. I'm so chuffed. When I started this journey, I was struggling to get into a size 20. I know I'm not a true 16 yet but this is a start and I can't stop smiling!!

PS - my finger still hurts like hell - is that normal?!!

Saturday, April 4, 2009

Ouch!!!!!!! Thank God for frozen peas!

Now I know, I've been doing too much and need to take things a bit easier!

I had an horrendous day yesterday, I was up at 5.15am to get the 6.30am train to London with my boss for a training session. That all went fine but I was totally exhausted by the time I got home. So I decided to go upstairs and have a little nap, which is when I had a rather freakish and very unpleasant accident. Fortunately, I am staying with my parents and they were in otherwise things would have been a lot worse.

I got into my bedroom - which as I have already said in a previous post, was my bedroom as a teenager so I've spent a fair bit of time in it over the years with no problem!! Anyway, I decided to go to the bathroom and as I went to walk out of the room, I tripped. I was right by the door and I could see I didn't have much room to fall into. Somehow, as I fell, my hand got caught round the edge of the door as I headbutted it and I ended up on the floor with the door shut and my hand trapped in it. It hurt like hell and I could not free myself as the doors are old and the handles are quite high - well out of reach. My parents got me out and were quick with the frozen peas. My right index finger took the brunt but fortunately was not broken. It is now twice it's normal size, very bruised and painful but I'll live! I've also got a rather tender head!

I can't help but panic at what would have happened if my parents had been out or it had happened when I was on my own. I know an accident like this could happen to anyone but it does make me feel very vulnerable.

The problem is, I think I have been over doing it a bit recently - as you may have gathered by my lack of posting. Work has been very demanding and I have lots going on with the house. I just need to slow down and rest a bit. Nothing like a nasty accident to make you realise you've been pushing yourself too hard.

I don't plan to do much for the rest of the weekend and it is a short week at work. Time to catch up and recharge my batteries, I think!